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What are some reasons a parent doesn’t want their kid to get a driving license?

Wednesday, August 6th, 2008

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my dad says wait till i’m 18 and him and my uncle are always saying i need to get out the house more, hey geniuses how am i supposed to get out of the house with no vehicle

For us it’s responsibility and cost. Parents’ insurance costs go waaaaaaay up when they add a teen to their policy. We can’t afford to add our kids at this point. So one of the conditions of our son getting a license is that he has to have a job that can pay the insurance premium and part of the gas. A car is not a toy and with it comes an awesome responsibility that many teens are not ready for!

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I don’t want to pay for the insurance and fuel.

I don’t want to be held responsible for the accidents that WILL happen.

I don’t think he/she has the maturity or responsibility to operate a two-ton vehicle capable of manslaughter.

I don’t want to wonder where my child or car is.

I don’t want to argue with my child over whether or not he/she “needs” the car or not.

Hey genius, are there no bikes where you live? No bus system? Do you have no friends with cars? Are you on crutches and can’t walk from place to place?

Realize that licenses grant privileges, not rights. Accordingly, driving is not a right, it’s a privilege.

I am really wanting to adopt a child from Asia and I need advice.

Wednesday, August 6th, 2008

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Home many of you have adopted a child from overseas and about how much do you think I’ll end up spending compared to just adopting a child in the United States?

Adopting from China costs approximately $30,000 and that is about the same as a private adoption in the U.S. (give or take a little on both estimates). If you adopt from the U.S. foster care system, the cost can be zero or very little.

Several other Asian countries have international adoption programs, but I have not researched them like I have China. I believe that they are all quite similar, though-if you think it would be a “cheaper” option, you are wrong.

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My dad says boys and girls are different? Are they when it comes to this?

Wednesday, July 9th, 2008

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Okay so my dad will literally let my brother do anything. I am older than him, we are in the same grade we are 11 months apart. So he gets to stay the night with his girlfriend and gets total freedom. But as soon as I ask to like stay overnight with my boyfriend he says No! Or like my brother can walk alone at all hours of the night but I can’t. And my dad gets mad to see me make out and stuff, but doesn’t my brother. He always replys girls are different than boys. Like my dad got really mad because me and my brothers friends were playing truth or dare and I got asked to give a guy a bj. Well he found out and freaked on me, but my dad has walked in on my brother and his girlfriend?
So my question is why does he say that, and are boys and girls really different to the point of this?

I’m a dad, and girls are different. However, he isn’t doing your brother any good. He should be training your brother to be gentleman instead of a dog.

But, some differences are fair. Your example of walking alone after dark is one. In a perfect world, you could do so. However, this is not a perfect world. Men will target you because you’re a girl. You can be raped, beaten, or robbed for no other reason.

Another example is the one about the BJ. I would beat the boy to death. I would only beat you to a pulp.

Next time, ask your father why he has such low standard for your brothers behavior instead of why he has such high standards for your behavior.

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Its a double standard is what it is. Guys are supposed to be out having sex, while girls are supposed to be at home in proper dresses with their legs crossed doing the house work. Your father is either older of brought up be very very old fashioned people.

On the bright side (if you can call it that) he probably doesnt think much of your brothers girl friend.

Baby Movement?

Thursday, July 3rd, 2008

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I am 14 weeks and 4 days with my first, and last night for about a good 5 mins, I kept feeling a light pinch/pulling in my lower stomach, and I also got the sensation as if “someone slide their finger across the inside of my stomach”
Was that the baby or my uterus growing or what?

When the baby first moves it feels kind of fluttery, almost like tiny wings moving. You will feel it but others can’t at first. The bubbles are probably in your stomach!

You are just about at the stage when you can feel the baby. Isn’t it the coolest thing?

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What you are feeling and what your husband is hearing is most likely gas. 14 weeks is too early to feel movement — the baby is too small for you to feel yet.

Why does my 2 week old spit up breast milk through his nose?

Saturday, June 7th, 2008

My 2 week old son only spits up after breast feeding and it mostly comes out through his nose. This makes me nervous, but I don’t want to call the dr if it’s common. He only throws up after breast milk only.. not formula. Is it something that could be in my milk?

My baby sometimes does this too. It’s normal, but it makes you feel bad…:(

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Maybe he’s just better off with the formula. He likes it better. Also, since it’s coming out through his nose, it’s probably just because he’s got it in the back of his throat and it makes it easier for the fluid to go up through the nasal cavity. I doubt it’s uncommon. Just stick with the formula.

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It could be something you are eating… everything that you eat affects your milk in one way or another. I also agree with the previous poster… if you are bottle feeding him in a more upright position, but then breastfeeding lying flat, it may be the positioning instead of substance you are feeding. I would do a double check on your diet though… do you drink a lot of caffeine? Do you eat spicy foods? Your milk is really good for your baby, especially at this young age, so if you can figure it out and continue breastfeeding, it really is best.

Differences between state and private funded agencies???

Friday, June 6th, 2008

What would be some differences between a state-funded child placement agency and a private adoption agency in regard to how they deliver their adoption services?

State funded will be run by small minded, suspicious, barely competent, afraid to make decisions type people. Mostly no regard for peoples needs and concerns, willing to drag out every procedure because they are afraid to offend their ‘higher ups’, their most active moments come with clock watching and avoiding responsibilities. Their last concern is with the happiness of any participants. As has been said, if the government was in charge of the Sahara Desert, in five years there would be no sand. Hope this helps.

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From what I know the state agency deals with kids in the foster care system who have been abused or neglected and can’t be placed back with their family, so need a new family. Private adoption agencies deal mostly with placing newborns whose parents have decided at birth to place them for adoption. So with the state program you are dealing with older kids (there maybe be a few infants or young children, but mostly older). With private agencies you are dealing with newborns, whose parents have decided not to parent.

The cost differs widely, with foster care adoptions being very low cost. Private adoptions are quite expensive ($10,000+?).

Other than that I know private agencies can help with things like step parent adoptions, but I assume that isn’t what you’re asking about.

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From what I know the state agency deals with kids in the foster care system who have been abused or neglected and can’t be placed back with their family, so need a new family. Private adoption agencies deal mostly with placing newborns whose parents have decided at birth to place them for adoption. So with the state program you are dealing with older kids (there maybe be a few infants or young children, but mostly older). With private agencies you are dealing with newborns, whose parents have decided not to parent.

The cost differs widely, with foster care adoptions being very low cost. Private adoptions are quite expensive ($10,000+?).

Other than that I know private agencies can help with things like step parent adoptions, but I assume that isn’t what you’re asking about.

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The state has children who have been taken away (usually) from their parent for various reasons such as neglect, abandonment, drug use, abuse, alcohol related issued, and sexual abuse. In this world which is not perfect, these kids usually have issues that need to be dealt with through doctors and phychologists.

Private adoption agencies usually have babies for adoption, or in rare cases, the position where the mother for any number of reasons chooses to place her child (or both parents), before she gets in a position of having the state take the kids. With the state, they pay for things like home studies, attorney fees, medical throughout the kids’ lives, and more. With a private agency (or just private adoption), it is the responsibility of the adoptive parents to pay for all the expenses, sometimes including the first mom’s medical. The state doesn’t charge fees, and the private agencies often have fees upwards of $20,000.00 for a healthy baby. Since they are for profit agencies, they often leave out the feelings of pregnant women, and coerce and talk them out of keeping their children, no matter what, even threatening them with lawsuits, etc. With the state, kids might be placed in foster care, however, their job is to try to re-unite the kids with their biological parents. It seems to be a cycle that preys on circumstances, where wealthy people can go and “buy” a baby, and where poor people who have better homes and love for a child don’t get to adopt babies. Also, the poorer birth moms get preyed upon with the threats.

I do not recommend a pregnant woman to go through an agency, unless it is through a church.