I am not married, due to major health isssues and other concerns. I don’t date either because I don’t want lead a man on for marriage or seriousness and because of my health. I am pretty, smart, and decent, however, men call me “lesbian” if I don’t go out with them or assume it in so many words.
The ones that are calling you that INTEND it as an insult.
It just demonstrates their intense fear of rejection and their extreme homophobia, not to mention their non-existent egos, more than it does the actual “insulting” nature of the word itself.
“Lesbian” and “Gay” are not things to be ashamed of, of derogatory terms, in themselves. It’s just ignorant jerks who think otherwise. Don’t worry, it just means they weren’t clever enough to come up with anything else to assauge their delicate egos.
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i think it’s meant as an insult, yes - usually said by men when women won’t date them
i’ve never been called one (that i can remember anyway) but it wouldn’t bother me at all. for a start i don’t care if someone’s gay. and calling someone gay when they’re not, well how is that an insult? it’s like calling someone fatty when they’re thin
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Because you’ve bruised their ego. Arrogant men (not all men are like this, by the way), but arrogant men have to tell themselves something, make some sort of excuse as to way every woman is not dying to have sex with him